I found out on Sunday that my husband has been having an affair for two years. I know her. We had been married for a little over a year when he started so the majority of our marriage has been voided for me. I had blamed myself for lack of connection but never knew why.
He has said that he was doing it some of the time because she was threatening to tell me and his family. She is the one that told me about it through a letter. He has confirmed that she had two abortions with his children. He was having the affair 9 months prior to my pregnancy, the entirety of my pregnancy (with her becoming pregnant weeks of my due date), and saw her soon after she was born (a couple of weeks).
It continued until last Tuesday. I have been struggling deeply with this betrayal. He has allowed me to look through his things but with Snapchat being their main form of communication, there is not much for me to see….until I looked at his email. I found multiple sex pictures of them…in July (my daughter was a month old). This has sent me to the deepest end. I can’t stop thinking about them. I can’t stop sending them to him to remind him of his reality. I saw in the picture, they were in a hotel and I asked. They meet in a hotel right next to my house at least 5times. The other times, he would drop my daughter off at day care and go straight to her house.
I don’t know how to move forward.